How To Deal With Guilt Of Not Living Up To Your Expectations
Guilt is a useful human feeling. It guides us and teaches us what to do right. However, guilt can go to far, and end up hindering our growth. How then can we know when guilt has gone to far, and how to fix it? You can decrease your guilt by observing your intentions with the actions, and realizing that the consequences may not have been the intentions of the actions. That is the best advice I can give you. But the truth is this advice is not exactly extensive. So, I will break it down further, and explain the actionable steps you can take to reach these points. How Does Guilt Affect Your Life? Guilt can impact your physiology, resulting in depressive and anxious symptoms. This can lead to you being less productive and engaged with your life, and thus being more depressed. I’d been thinking about some of the things I’ve done in my life. Some of the people I’ve hurt. I felt atrocious about it, and found that the more I think about them, the less I feel like working. I got some help on how to help alleviate those feelings. This then made me realize that those techniques can also be used to alleviate some productivity guilt. This will help improve your productivity. You need to overcome your guilt if you want to be a good writer. Guilt is a “bad” feeling. When building a routine, you want to associate “good” feelings with the routine, such as pride, excitement, curiosity and joy. If you associate your bad feelings with the routine, then the thought of the routine will tire you, leaning to not wanting to do the routine. This is a topic I wrote more extensive about here, along with the solutions. A study by science direct found that guilt can hinder your productivity, proving what I just said. It even goes as far as encouraging people to change their perception of leisure time so that they can learn to enjoy it, thus improving their productivity, and alleviating guilt. Specifically, productivity guilt in this case. So, how can you forgive yourself? For the things you’ve done in the past. The things you’ve done to people, things you’ve done to yourself (procrastinating when you should have been working) and things you do that hurt yourself? How Do You Forgive Yourself For Not Working Hard Enough? 1. Look at Your Intentions, Not Your Guilt The first step to forgiving yourself, and learning to see your self as a human is to contextualize yourself in a more humane manner. Society has a lot of boxes. Boxes are these massive simplified classifications for people. They are either creeps, monsters, or evil. But we all know that’s not true. It has become something of a meme now, but we all know that there is more to a villain than meets the eye. The things they do may be horrible, but when we contextualize the villain. When we learn why they did what they did. We start to see the human within, and then we see how we too would have ended up doing the same thing as them. Guilt, and seeing yourself as a monster distances you from yourself and makes you feel shame for being you. In reality, your actions were shameful, not you. You are a human. Your actions came from a place of sense, and ration, even if that ration or sense is twisted. So the first step to forgiving yourself is learning to recognize that reason. You need to learn your intentions. What were you trying to do when you did what you did? What were you trying to gain? It could be that you were trying to gain control. Or you were anxious, and scared, so you wanted to feel safe. In some instances, you may discover that you forgive yourself simply because you realize the consequences of your actions were not your intentions. Maybe you were trying to help, and things went completely out of hand. So this is your way of fixing the problem. For example, maybe you decided not to work at that time because you wanted to give yourself more time to prepare, only to end up never working. 2. Look At What Formed You The second thing you could try is viewing how you grew to start thinking the way you think, since it could be the main reason that you ended up getting these results. The reasoning here is fairly simple. Sometimes people feel an impulse, and they act on that impulse or instinct. Only after it is all over do they realize how terrible what they did is. This is the result of upbringing and formation. The first step is to ask what your family background was like. It could be that you grew up in an familial situation where that behavior was conducive, and emotional expression only happened in that manner. An example of this is someone who grows up in a family where yelling and aggression is the best way to communicate. Then it could end up being that this person meets someone who they like. Things go well, and the person suddenly finds they are slightly frightened by something. Rather than communicating properly, they start a fight and do things that they regret a lot later. The second thing to look at is your childhood experiences. This is different from family because it focus on your general childhood outside of family dynamics. Meaning things like school. So what were your dynamics with your peers, or school mates like? Were you perhaps bullied by your friends and made to feel like you had to put up with it or you would forever be lonely? An example of this is someone who laughs when being bullied, and accepts the cruel treatments. They may decide they are interested in writing at some point, but they never actually can get themselves to write. This is because they were called stupid,